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Little By Little

Here’s the thing: I’m almost 31 weeks pregnant.  That means Scott and I have about 9 weeks to go before our lives are tossed into a giant salad spinner of literal and figurative poop.

Little by little, we’re getting ready.  We took some childbirth classes and set up a crib, and we moved a dresser into the baby’s room.  Thanks to Scott’s sister and some generous friends, the dresser is now stocked with hand-me-downs.  I can’t tell you how happy it makes me not to have to buy this stuff.  Just last night I was sitting on the floor sorting through a box of borrowed onesies, saying things like, “Look at these things! Do you realize how much money we’re saving? We’re making out like bandits!” while Scott, who has done more research on the finances of childrearing than I have, looked at me like I was hovering over an abandoned buffet on the deck of the sinking Titanic going, “Look, honey! Free hors d’oeuvres!”

We’re going to have the baby at a hospital in downtown Chicago even though we live in the suburbs.  If it’s snowing and it’s rush hour, it could take an hour and a half to get there, so we’re going to drive to a hotel near the hospital as soon as I start having contractions.  The plan is to rest and watch movies and take hot baths there until it’s time to pop across the street and have the baby.

At that point we’re going to call Oprah and she’ll meet us on the labor and delivery floor, and on the count of three she’ll tell me to look under my hospital bed.  And when I see my baby under there I’ll be like Oh Oprah, you shouldn’t have.

That’s option one.  Option two is we’ll find out that the baby’s head is the size of a sombrero and he needs to be extracted by C-section while I’m so high I’m trying to eat the wallpaper.

Option three is I’ll push him out with the help of an epidural.

For those of you who haven’t spent 20 hours researching epidurals in your pajamas at the dining room table like I have, I’ll say this: epidurals are great for a lot of women because they ease some of the pain.  They’re also kind of controversial these days–not with doctors, but among the natural childbirth set, like doulas and midwives and the authors and bloggers who warn against “medicalized” birth.  These people rightly point out that once you get an epidural you’re confined to bed for the rest of your labor, among other things.  But some of these advocates go further and try to shame women into thinking that if they get an epidural they’ll lose their autonomy and the magic of childbirth.

Take, for example, the ladies in my swim class.  When I told them I was keeping my pain management options open, they looked at me like I’d said I was going to polish my blood diamonds and dump antifreeze in a mountain stream.  One of them volunteered to come to the hospital and physically restrain me from getting an epidural, lest I regret it for the rest of my life.

I was so taken aback that I didn’t say anything, but later I pretended to lose control of my pool noodle and I splashed her right in the contact lens.

I haven’t decided yet whether an epidural is right for me.  This is because if you give me 40 weeks to make a decision, I will eat Doritos and read emails for 39 weeks and only then will I tell you my answer in exchange for a small fee, like a shoulder massage or a new tube of chapstick.  It’s also because I have no idea what the pain will actually feel like.  I have no idea what complications might arise.  I can plan all I want, but if I get my heart set on one particular way to do this, I’m bound to be disappointed.

And being disappointed isn’t fun.  Just ask my new favorite person on the internet—the commenter who posted on the allrecipes or foodnetwork or whatever website I was just on to say that a certain chicken chili recipe was flawed.  To quote him directly:


Now, I don’t know if he bought the rattlesnake at $20/lb. or if he just ran over it on a backcountry road, but either way he probably spent a lot of time browning it and chopping up vegetables, only to find that the recipe was pretty much a chicken-only situation.  What a disappointment, right?  He must have been so bummed.

Today’s recipe is dedicated to that guy.

I promise it’ll work as long as you don’t substitute anything.

spiced nutsTo be clear, it’s especially important not to substitute anything for the nuts.

spiced nuts 2

Lightly Spiced Pecans {download & print recipe}
by eggton
The only way to get glazed nuts to be really crunchy, in my experience, is to fold them into whipped egg whites before you bake them.  These aren’t very spicy.  Add another 3/4 tsp. of cayenne if you want them to have a real kick.


3 c. pecan halves (this is 2 6-oz. bags)

1 egg white

1/4 c. sugar

3/4 tsp. cayenne pepper

1/2 tsp. cinnamon

1/4 tsp. chili powder

1/4 tsp. allspice

1/4 tsp. cumin


Preheat the oven to 315 degrees.

Beat the egg white until it’s completely light and foamy.  (I use an electric mixer.  No clear liquid will be left on the bottom of the bowl when it’s thoroughly whipped.)  Add the sugar and spices and whisk together.  Whisk in the pecans.  Arrange the pecans in a thin layer on an ungreased baking sheet or two–preferably one with sides, like a jelly roll pan.

Bake the pecans for 15 minutes, being careful with the temperature.  (An oven thermometer helps me here because the actual temperature of my oven can really vary from what I set it to.)  Take the pecans out of the oven and cool the oven to 250 degrees. Scrape the nuts off the bottom of the pan and respread them.  Bake them at 250 degrees until they’re brown (but not dark brown and charred), about 10 minutes.

Remove the pan from the oven and immediately scrape the nuts onto a drying rack.  Break up any clumps and let them cool completely.  (They’ll crisp up as they do.)  Store the cooled nuts in a plastic bag or Tupperware, or freeze them.

Thuder + Seymour 11.24The minute Thanksgiving was over, Seymour started up with the Christmas carols.

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  1. I thought I’d never get an epidural because the thought of a giant needle getting jammed into my spine was even more terrifying than pushing an actual person out of my hoo ha. I had to be induced and was going like a champ until 8 centimeters and he was in the wrong position with his face up instead of down causing greater than usual pain. I was like GET ME THE GIANT SPINE NEEDLE STAT. Everything else was easy peasy even though he was just under 9 pounds. Moral of the story – EPIDURALS ARE AWESOME. Also that you can change your mind even if you thought you didn’t want one, and a good hospital will have it at the ready if you need it! You got this!

    December 6, 2014
    • Oh my goodness! That sounds intense. Thanks for sharing this–it’s so helpful to hear another story. Did you have to be induced because you went too far beyond your due date, or because they knew he was going to be on the bigger side? We have an ultrasound in 2 weeks, where presumably we’ll get a *guess* as to how big this guy will be. (I hear it’s so hard to estimate with much accuracy, though.) At 20 weeks he was in the 96th percentile, so. . . Lordy. I wonder if he’s slowed down or if he’ll be a real chunker.

      December 6, 2014
      • I’m loving all these comments, you have the best readers ever! I was induced because my blood pressure was a bit high and it was the checkup the week of my due date anyway and my doctor said I was already dilating during the checkup but since I lived over an hour away she said might as well make this happen now! I was NOT prepared for that! Mr Hungry had to leave work and get my bags and he wasn’t even there for the first couple of hours! The pitocin was what really started the pain and it was nowhere near as bad as I obsessed over. I think I would have made it without the epidural had he not been face up at the end, and I had tearing and needed lots of stiches. I was terrified of that possibility before birth but honestly I was so excited about the baby and with the epidural all but removing the pain, I didn’t even care that there were 4 strange dudes with needles and thread putting my hoo ha back together! My biggest complaint was for them to hurry the heck up so I could hold my baby! A few days later I was good as new and thinking I would TOTALLY do this again! It’s almost never as bad as you make it in your head, even when complications do arise! I was terrified and stressed out leading up to it and that’s natural for your first one but you really will be fine and not thinking about anything but holding your and Scott’s baby for the first time and memorizing all their tiny features. Can’t wait to hear all about it when you’re finally on the other side! Meanwhile get all the sleep and peace and quit you can now – SERIOUSLY.

        December 7, 2014
  2. Lisa #

    People can get a little crazed. Like they’ve forgotten that childbirth is about becoming a parent…for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. It’s not just about one day (or so…). Your birth, your business. I hope it’s smooth and easy for you.

    December 6, 2014
    • I know, right? I asked one woman how she felt after she had her first kid without an epidural and she said “amazing. Like I could do anything. I felt so powerful.” Then I asked her how she felt after she had her second kid WITH an epidural, and she said “exactly the same way. So powerful. Like I could do anything.” In the end YOU GET A BABY, and that’s what matters for the rest of your life, right?

      December 6, 2014
  3. PattyAD #

    All those people have two things in common – they aren’t you, and they won’t be there. You know how much you can handle and how much you can’t, and that’s all that matters. Glad to hear things are going well – and hand me downs are awesome. I lived for those.

    December 6, 2014
    • Such wise words, Patty. Thanks. I am actually really curious about what it will feel like–like will it be shooting pain? Or rolling pain, or aching pain, you know? Regardless, I don’t think my threshold is very high. I was in the restroom of a grocery store the other day (because, you know, I have to pee every 10 minutes and had to take a break half-way through my shopping) and I hit myself in the face with the hollow metal door of the stall by accident. It hurt, but I think the surprise of getting whacked in the face took me aback more than anything else, and I BURST into tears. I could not stop crying. I came out of the bathroom and Scott was standing there with our grocery cart with this horrified look on his face, like “Oh my God, what HAPPENED in there?!?” and I was like “it’s [sniff]…nothing! I’m [sniff] fine!” even though I was crying as if I had just been mugged. So, rrrright. We’ll see how far I get in this birthing business! 🙂

      December 6, 2014
      • I’m generally not very stoic, (depending on where things hurt, mind you) and was induced twice (first daughter was 9 days late; 2nd daughter was started a week early because she was HUGE). They used pitocin both times, and that really tends to… intensify how everything feels. I went in the first time with the “let’s see how things go” attitude, and ended up with the epidural about halfway in. 2nd time took much longer, because they waited until my water broke naturally instead of breaking it for me like they did with baby #1, so had to wait much longer, and worked thorugh as much as I could, but was happy to get that darn epidural when I finally could.

        I think a metal door in the face would do me in any time, much less when I’d be dealing with crazy pregancy emotions! Hope you’re okay!

        December 8, 2014
  4. Cindy #

    Although I can’t find proof that she said it, I’ve always believed that Joan Rivers had the answer re: pain medication: yes, starting at the moment of conception…

    December 6, 2014
  5. sue ellen #

    In my humble opinion on childbirth is…. we are all different…situations all different. You will do what works best for you ! So, keep your options open and carry on. The best part is yet to come. The little bundle you will take home. I can’t even begin to explain how every fiber in your body and soul is going to fall in love with this tiny person. It is incredible. Then there are the grandparents…wowzers. Talk about going bananas…. they will !!! And best of all, you and Scott get to watch ’em ! We are all so excited for you… and awaiting the adventures you will share !

    December 6, 2014
    • Sue Ellen, it’s the hormones, probably, but I teared right up when reading your comment. I wonder what he will look like! When I see other people’s babies now, like in Starbucks, I stare at them and simply cannot believe that I’m going to have one, and that he will be part me and part Scott. I just can’t wrap my mind around it. It doesn’t compute yet, so this tension is building. But good tension! I’m getting so excited.

      December 6, 2014
  6. Sounds like you’ve got all the options checked out. Wait for the event and see what happens and react then. #1 didn’t want to come out-she was warm, happy and fed. Why leave the comfort, right? Because my water broke and she didn’t want to move, they did a c-section for all our benefit. She came out fine. #2 was moving along just fine. I didn’t feel any contractions (I was scheduled) and when the nurse said “Oh, that was a good one, I said “what’s that” She said it was a big contraction-I didn’t feel it. I had an epidural and felt stuff because she was bigger than expected and hard to grab. By #3, I was scheduled again but after going for pre-testing as soon as I got home, my water broke, we turned around and went back and I had meds and my 3rd cesscerian. Welcome to the wonderful and ever changing world of child birth. Again, I say go with it when it happens. You will be fine and Scott will be beaming again, just like the day you got married 🙂

    December 6, 2014
    • Ah, Aunt Candi you are so right–as long as Scott smiles the way he did at the wedding, it will be perfect. Thanks for the story of how yours were born.

      We found out yesterday that our little guy is head down for the time being, which I suspect happened only this week–he was WILD in there–it was like a three ringed circus, and I had some pretty annoying reflux. But now that he stopped flipping around like a wet fish and got comfy, I feel so much better!

      December 6, 2014
      • You’re doing great and looking great too. We can’t wait for the big day. It’s kinda like your wedding only the fun will last a lot longer. Can’t wait to see you and Scott and baby Rohrbaugh 🙂

        December 10, 2014
  7. My first bundle of joy is turning 17 in nine weeks time. Somehow I missed my window of opportunity to have an epidural (who knew there was such a thing) and by the time I was asking for one it was too late. Happily we both got through it untraumatised. Nothing quite beats the elation of meeting your brand new baby for the very first time. Everything else pales into insignifcance. Have a fabulous Christmas. I hope you get thoroughly spoiled.

    December 6, 2014
    • Gosh, congratulations in advance on 17 years of parenting. I’ve never thought of my birthday from my mom’s point of view before. Really we should be celebrating HER, come to think of it. (Funny enough, my birthday is in a few weeks and she’ll be visiting, so maybe I’ll change things up this time.) Thanks for the story. I will be thinking of you if I, too, miss the epidural window by accident!

      December 6, 2014
  8. Gail Hart #

    You, as I already knew, are so smart! Leave your options open for whatever you need to do to have that healthy baby! That’s the goal; the rest are details, later not important. I had one child with and one without and neither seems traumatized by the decision. :-). Can’t wait for your baby; we are always in need of another person with a wonderful sense of humor, which your child will no doubt have.

    December 6, 2014
    • Thanks, Gail! I love to plan, but yeah–this doesn’t seem like it’s the best opportunity to do that! It sounds like even the littlest things can go not according to plan. So many of my friends have told me that the outfits they brought to the hospital to take their babies home in were hilariously too big or too small. So I am sticking to things I CAN plan– stocking the freezer, making a playlist for the car ride==whether that winds up being a leisurely ride to a scheduled c-section or a last minute, contraction-filled high-speed chase–figuring out how the hell the swaddle blankets work. . .
      Just kidding. I’ll never figure out how those work. 🙂

      December 6, 2014
  9. Amy #

    I was hoping to find a cute belly pic in this post! Guess I’ll have to wait 😉 So I went into my labor having no expectations. I really wanted a natural birth but was not opposed to the idea of an epidural if I should find i really needed one. My doula (actually I kind of ended up having two, which you can read about in my birth story on my blog) was totally ok with my plan. Her only advice was not to have the epidural too soon or it could prolong labor. I REALLY didn’t want to get one because I’m allergic to all kinds of medication plus…THEY STICK A HUGE NEEDLE IN YOU. BUT, after 7 hours of some pretty intense labor and puking out the contents of a stomach that hadn’t had food in 48 hours, I kind of changed my mind about the epidural and didn’t care what side effects it might have. Getting it was the absolute best decision i’ve ever made. Like seriously. Getting able to really relax and savor the moment was awesome. Plus I’m sure Nate wasn’t too upset he didn’t have to hear my scream every 3 minutes anymore. I’m so excited for you guys and I can’t wait to hear all about it!!! 🙂

    December 6, 2014
    • Amy, this is such a helpful perspective. And I remember being so glad you wrote about your birth story on your blog–I need to go back and read it again.

      We haven’t gotten a doula yet. We might not. We might. Did you feel like she helped Nate help you? I want Scott to be as comfortable and involved as possible, and if a doula can facilitate that, it might be a good idea.

      December 6, 2014
      • Amy #

        the doula was super helpful. Nate wasn’t even there for the beginning of my labor (long story) but the real reason I got a doula is because even if he had been there, I didn’t think he would be able to help the way I needed him too. I also didn’t think that for me personally, I would be able to handle him trying to help. I’m sure I would have gotten pissed off at him. I also wanted someone experienced, so my mind would be able to be put at ease if I asked her any questions about if something was “normal,” etc. She was gentle and comforting and reassuring. She gave me tips on the breathing (or screaming in my case) to distract me. So I think that even if you would be comforted by scott, she would be helpful to have around….assuming he wouldn’t mind taking a backseat in a way.

        December 6, 2014
  10. Congratulations! Do what works for you…and might I add this extends beyond childbirth? Thanks for the recipe, this looks yummy 🙂

    December 6, 2014
    • Amen, Holli!

      December 6, 2014
    • jenny_o #

      Yes, Holli, yes – a thousand times yes! There is no “one right way” and anybody who thinks there is should be carefully avoided 🙂 Kate, you were wondering what the pain was like. Every woman may experience it differently, but how I would describe mine was like a giant squeezing of my lower torso, building to a peak and then ebbing away with each contraction. I’ve heard other moms describe childbirth as similar to having a good BM (sorry for the description, but it seemed worthwhile mentioning, because it shows how different people’s experiences are). Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy! Love your doggy photo 🙂

      December 8, 2014
  11. When people tell me they think I should go camping, I like to point out that houses were invented for a reason: SO WE DON’T HAVE TO SLEEP OUTDOORS WITH ANIMALS ANYMORE. Same goes for drugs. You’re not a cow. Go forth and enjoy all the perks of being a fully evolved human. If people gots stuff to say about it, they aren’t your real friends. Any evolved mother will tell you so.

    December 6, 2014
    • The last time I went camping, a mosquito flew into my ear and stayed in there for a long time. Like, longer than I thought the average lifespan of a mosquito was in the first place. It sounded like a freight train on my ear drum, so I jumped up in the middle of the night and yelled “TRAIN! TRAAAAAAIN!” in the middle of the tent, which was in the middle of the Montana wilderness. My tentmates were like what the hell? Does she have brain damage from dehydration? (I’m 80% sure I did, actually, but that’s another matter.) It was awful. The dead mosquito is probably still in there. Shiver.

      December 7, 2014
  12. Jackie Wernz #

    I was talking to an expectant mom today about this very issue and she told me about an email she got from a dad about how disappointing the birth of their child was because his wife had an emergency c section. She and I agreed that there was nothing more sad than describing the birth of your baby that way – as a disappointment. I desperately didn’t want an epidural with either of my kids but got one with each because of complications with each (magnesium sulfate with #1 – nothing “natural” about labor on that; lack of progression after 15 hours of hard labor as a result of a way early induction with #2). In the end though I was proud of myself, and so so happy to have a bundle of healthy joy in my hands. Because as you rightly recognize that is all that matters!

    This was a pleasure to read. You are really a great writer.

    December 6, 2014
    • Jackie–that *is* a strange, bummer of a way to think about a baby’s coming into the world! I know someone who kept saying “all I’ve ever wanted is a water birth. Like, for forever. It’s the only thing I want” and I wondered if she’d be less stressed out if she just focused on what it was going to feel like to MEET the baby rather than BIRTH the baby. She got the waterbirth she wanted in the end, so that’s good.

      December 7, 2014
  13. Stephbo #

    The best advice I ever heard about this came from a nurse I used to work with. She said that non-medicated childbirth is great, but if you’re in too much pain, you can’t enjoy the moment. If you need the epidural so you can enjoy the moment, do it. You’ll know what you need when you need it. Good luck to you!

    December 6, 2014
    • Steph, I didn’t really get this until I started reading the comments here and on my personal fb page about how the epidural really helps some moms *enjoy* their babies’ deliveries. I had no idea that it’s not just about pain relief in and of itself, but that the pain relief can have the effect of letting you be more present. It makes total sense, but it didn’t occur to me until I read comments like yours. So thanks.

      December 7, 2014
  14. Dayna #

    I had a plan for #1 – easy pregnancy (went into preterm labor at 22 weeks) and epidural (rolled into the hospital at 10cm not able to sit because his head was coming out – WAY out of the window!) #2 was a scheduled induction WITH epidural because I did not want a repeat of #1. My only regret about the epidural is that they took it out right after delivery – another 24 hours of not feeling that would have been fabulous. And has anyone warned you that when the baby latches on your uterus contracts? Like bad cramps contracts with every feed? Just another fun part of being a mommy – whee!

    December 6, 2014
    • Dayna, WOW. That sounds nutty. What happened when you went into labor at 22 weeks? Did the stop it and when did you eventually deliver? Did it just progress rrrrreally fast when the time came, and that’s why you were at 10 when you got to the hosptial? That must have been, um, intense. Geez. Thanks for sharing this. I had heard that the uterus contracts with breastfeeding and that it can take you aback and first but I didn’t realize it continued for a little while. Ugh. Lordy. I am kind of nervous (ha. not “kind of.” “Very” is more apt) about breastfeeding. Here’s the way I see it: my boobs have never served me well in the past (I got them late, they stayed small, I was never able to push them into any sort of cleavage for the life of me) so what on EARTH makes me think I’ll become the proud owner of superstar boobs at the age of 36? Hmm? I ask you.

      On the plus side, I did just write “superstar boobs” on the internet. I never saw that coming, that’s for sure.

      December 7, 2014
  15. Oh man I think this is one of your most entertaining posts to date (and by “to date” I mean since I started following your blog…).

    It makes me sad that anyone would judge anyone for how they decide to approach their own pregnancy/labor, but this was such a fun read, it helped me through some of that sadness. Oh and I think your Oprah plan is a sound one — I hope it works out!

    December 7, 2014
  16. Loved reading this post, wish you all the best on your childbirth and hope everything goes the right way! 🙂

    December 7, 2014
  17. Seymoure obviously has a critic.
    Since I’ve never given birth, I have no right to weigh in on the subject. But, if I ever *did* have a baby, you’d better believe there’d be drugs involved. I’m just sayin’.

    December 7, 2014
  18. Hahaha!! Very nice turn in the middle there, toward rattlesnake. Ugh, the Pool Lady!! Just know there are those of us Out There silently wishing for you to have a beautiful, spirited, Oprah-worthy birth! xoxo

    December 7, 2014
  19. My Mom’s epidural story is thus: She was in labor with me for, like, eternity plus three and stalled out. They gave her an epidural and it relaxed her so much I came shooting out while the Dr. was still putting on his coat. Besides being unnaturally afraid of falling and white things flapping in my face, I’m totally fine and Mom swore by epidurals till the end of her days. I got the opportunity to have just about every birth thing there is, except the water bath. Pitocin is not fun. Foley bulbs are HORRIBLE. Epidurals are awesome. Spinal blocks are better. Babies are the best. Rattlesnake is best eaten by someone else.

    December 7, 2014
  20. Sounds like you’ve explored the different childbirth options, and that’s really all anyone can ask! I can’t stand people who try and shame others/make decisions for them when that person has the facts.

    December 7, 2014
  21. Chris Perot #

    Katherine, you are hysterically funny. I love the simile of hors d’oeuvres on the Titanic! I don’t know if you have always been this funny, but when I read your blog I regret not having known you better, for clearly it was my loss.

    This is what my Louisa County born and raised, black housekeeper (only relevant for accurate voice in your imagination, which clearly is important to you) said to me about the pain of childbirth. She said, “Well, it’s like real bad diarrhea. You know right before you get real bad diarrhea?” The night I went into labor, I woke up, thought, “THIS IS NOT going to be good; I must make haste to the bathroom.” And when, after sitting on the john for a few minutes, and no Dumb and Dumber-esque scene ensued, I thought, “Damn, I really am pregnant. Everybody’s not just being nice to me- feeling sorry for me because I’ve lost my mind and gained 60 pounds. I guess I’m having this baby!” And I did. No epidural, only because I said I didn’t want one long before the Day of (W)Reckoning, and the nurses at MJH had listened to me. I’m glad for it, though, because the first time I looked into that little aliens huge eyes, they were bright and shining with fresh clarity, not all hazy and drugged like much of the life I had known before!

    Whatever you do, you’re going to do and that’s the best you can do, because once it’s happened, it’s over! As you have surmised, life is much bigger than our plans. I hope you have an orgasmic baby birthing! (That’s a real thing)

    December 7, 2014
  22. I had my kids a lot of years ago.I have a caudal with one and an epidural with the other. I was awake for both births and got to experience it all with the exception of the pain. After throwing up all food for all 9 months with both, I deserved an easy experience and it was easy. The first meal without throwing up and a great experience was wonderful too. The reaction of the dogs on returning home with a bundle of joy was awesome. Go with your gut. Don’t let anyone shame you into doing anything.

    December 7, 2014
  23. First lesson of parenting, well done! Never say never, weigh your options and keep them open, do the best you can, minimize harm, no need for martyrdom. Best wishes for a smooth pregnancy and delivery.

    December 7, 2014
  24. Whatever option you choose for your labour and delivery (and you will know best), best wishes for a smooth experience. The wonderful prize at the end of it all is meeting your child for the first time, followed by a lifetime of mothering and loving.

    And now about those nuts … they look so good. I had a bit of a laugh about the cayenne when you suggested adding another 3/4 tsp if the recipe isn’t spicy enough. I’m putting up a post for maple glazed spiced walnuts tomorrow with 1/4 tsp cayenne. I think I’m a spice weenie!

    December 7, 2014
  25. Bloody funny. The kid’s going to have a wicked upbringing if your writing is anything to judge by! Thanks for the laughs; very clever stuff.

    December 8, 2014
  26. These nuts looks scrumptious! As for the baby stuff, I say you have to do what’s best for you, and nobody will know that better than yourself. No point in enduring hours of excruciating pain just because some girl you don’t even know thinks you’re having YOUR baby wrong. Because it’s yours 🙂 ❤ i hope all goes well with you and can't wait to see the baby! 🙂

    December 8, 2014
  27. a #

    Well, the best thing to know about your birth plan is that you should be prepared to immediately discard it and go with whatever works. You want to experience the undrugged miracle of childbirth? Go for it! You want to get your epidural the minute you hit the L&D floor? Go for it! You want a c-section? Well, think twice, because that’s major surgery. But if it’s necessary…

    As far as the pain goes…the problem for me was not the intensity, but the duration. I never had any regular contractions and I didn’t really dilate and I ended up with a c-section, which was actually my birth plan from the start (I suspected the kid would not be agreeable to exiting her comfy location). But with the pitocin, the pain was pretty much unrelenting. I’m not really a pain wimp, but usually you can do something to make things stop hurting – move around or something. Not so with contractions. So maybe it’s the lack of control over the situation that was more the problem than anything else. At any rate, they offered me the pre-epidural pain relief and I turned it down. I finally gave up on that stubbornness and asked for whatever that drug was and they were all – nah, have an epidural instead. That made me much happier…and it was easier to go in for the c-section when you were already numb.

    Anyway, much luck with labor and delivery and the first couple months. Sleep as much as you can now, so you have a bit of a reserve – even if you can only do it in 2 hour intervals (it’s like training!). And continue to stock up on the hand-me-downs, because no matter what Scott might believe, clothing that child will be a major financial undertaking. They outgrow things every time you turn around. Our best investment was the $300 worth of clothing we bought on craigslist that our daughter wore for her first 3 years.

    December 9, 2014
  28. I have never given birth, but I have had a small procedure in which a tiny piece of plastic (like, less than a milometer in diameter) was probed into my uterus. I was given two extra strength painkillers fifteen minutes beforehand, and the entire procedure lasted just a few minutes. It was (and I’m not saying this to scare you) excruciating. Kind of like the worst cramps I had ever experienced, times ten. I’ve heard a lot of different stories from mothers, some saying they had a lot of pain and difficulty, others saying they had almost none at all, and I’ve always liked to think that I have a pretty high pain tolerance and that if I ever did have a child, I would pop that sucker out old school with no meds… however, after this experience, I am fairly certain I would cave almost immediately and get an epidural. It’s a personal issue, and everyone is different. No one can make those decisions for you — you’ll know if and when you need pain management, and if you’re in a hospital, you’ll have the option there. That’s beauty of modern medicine. Here’s hoping your delivery goes as smoothly as possible, no matter how you choose to go about it!

    December 10, 2014
  29. I only just started following you, and I have to say that I made this choice because you are HILARIOUS. And your recipes look pretty amazing too. Keep up the good work and good luck with your childbirth situation! Those things can be unpredictable, indeed.

    December 10, 2014
  30. First lesson of parenting, well done! Never say never, weigh your options and keep them open, do the best you can, minimize harm, no need for martyrdom. Best wishes for a smooth pregnancy and delivery.

    December 25, 2014

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